Blog Post by Brother Tarone C. Burns


We all feel alone, fearful, and even broken at times. In the still-small moments of our lives, we hear a still-small voice calling to us, revealing who and what we are in Yahuah As we reflect on our lives, we see that we need help that no one can seem to give us that will ease our internal pain. As we remember the love of Elohim, his son Yahusha/Jesus, whom people around us have told us about, we feel a sense of surrender to Him to help remove the invisible pain that no one sees. At some point, we begin to sense and feel change from within. I have come to understand this is Yahuah Elohim’s grace connecting with us to come unto him through His son Yahusha/Jesus. Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light (Matthew 11-28-30 KJV).


These verses are part of my spiritual tools. Using them reminds me that Elohim understands my plight and peril and is here for me. Reading them keeps my mind in a state of renewal, daily. These are healing tools. Through the grace of Yahuah and His Ruach haQodesh, His Holy Spirit, they empower us to restoration from those things that held us captive to sin. Romans 10:17 reads, So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of Yahuah.” The word of Yahuah guides us, they ensure us of His love and peace. “He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3 KJV).  


I seek to remember these scriptures when I feel, alone, hurt, angry or sad. “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee (Isaiah 26:3-KJV). So read Yahuah’s word, and you will see it will bring you peace and understanding of life and so much more! When life is hard and unfair, Elohim knows our pain, and He remembers His precious promises. Following is what the Ruach haQodesh, the Holy Spirit has taught me.


There are several types of spiritual abuse. The ones I want to focus on are “Shaming and Manipulation.” At the time I experienced this type of abuse, I was not aware of it until many years later. After reading about it, I realized that I had been a victim of this type of abuse. I was an elder at the time with a small online ministry growing steadily. It seemed to lack a better structure as it spoke of equipping people with the truth of the Torah as they came out of Christianity. At an elder’s meeting, I brought it to the Pastor and elders’ attention that we needed better guidance as elders and that we needed a discipleship training program. I felt a discomfort in my Ruach that we were causing many to stumble because of these things.


As the meetings progressed, we all felt similar things and we all spoke of many concerns. As the meeting ended, I expressed that if we could not work on these things, I would have to step down as an elder because I felt we were causing many to stumble. The other elders agreed as well. The pastor was silent and took no accountability. The pastor was unwilling to make any changes to incorporate these to help better those under his guidance. By the end of the meeting, all his elders stepped down. It became uncomfortable for us to stay after a week or so. Other members began to leave, and the pastor responded, “People come and go.” I knew better than that because many reached out to me with the same concerns, which fell on deaf ears. After about a week, the pastor made a video addressing that some were sowing discord in the ministry. He cleverly used Scripture to validate his message about sowing division. He expressed no personal accountability. We all left quietly never speaking to others of what happened. We did not want to cause any discord within the body. We were trying to show respect by not doing as the pastor expressed in his video. I was hurt to some degree but did not harbor any hate, only forgiveness.


As time passed, others saw similar problems. Some reached out to me with concerns similar to those of the previous elders. Through it all, I prayed for all who reached out to me. I see now they were hurting in like matter, being shamed and manipulated to either give money, use their talent, and so on. The lesson I learned from this came from the words of Jeremiah. “Thus saith Yahuah our Elohim: Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departs from Yahuah (Jeremiah 17:5). 


Also, But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you (John 14:26). Yahuah was teaching me not to put my trust in man. Additionally, the Ruach was disturbing my peace to cause me to move on because I was not being used for the good He called me and the others to be. I have found comfort and peace through prayer, forgiveness, and surrounding myself with like-minded brethren who seek after Elohim’s truth as we study together. If you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses (Matthew 6:14-15)


Mark 11:25 reads, “And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” If you have been a victim of shaming or manipulation, remember to follow scripture! Moreover, if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican (Matthew 18:15-17-(KJV). I pray this has helped someone to know that even though some may use their authority and the Bible to control, manipulate, or even shame you, I pray you to forgive them and move on. We are to pray and forgive and move on if they show no repentance or action to change!



Brother Tarone C Burns

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Garry Davidson February 25, 2024

Well said and written Brother T. Much love from your brother.