Blog Post by Sister Diane Foster

Spiritual Abuse (1)

Yahusha told her, Daughter, be of good comfort: thy faith hath made you whole; go in peace.” Luke 8:48.


I think of another Scripture I love.

Fear not, for I am with you. Be not dismayed, for I am your Elohim, I will strengthen you, yes, I will help thee, you, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness. Isaiah 41:10.


These are powerful words coming from Elohim, our Yahuah. He is saying, do not fear because He is with us. Can you remember such a time you put your trust in someone to that degree? AbbaYah then tells us not to be discouraged, disheartened, downcast, distressed, or depressed. Why? Because He is our strength and helper in time of need. He said He will give us strength, and He said He will help. If AbbaYah said He would help, then we can believe it because He is not an Elohim who lies. To uphold means to support, sustain, defend, and maintain us. This is a powerful, powerful statement, and when made a part of our walk with Him, the grips of spiritual abuse no longer have power.


We are Yahuah’s anointed. Yahuah sent His son Yahshua to break the shackles of spiritual abuse. Yahshua spoke these words:


The Spirit of Yahuah is upon Me because He has anointed Me to preach the gospel to the poor; He has sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recover of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised. Luke 4:18


Some versions, rather than reading bruise, read crushed, oppressed, downtrodden, and wounded prisoners. Yahusha came to set them free! For the spiritually abused, it is possible to realign and restore your spirituality in progressive sanctification through the power of Yahusha and the Ruach haQodesh, Yahuah’s Holy Spirit.


Emotional Healing Biblically Speaking


Emotions can be grouped into a few categories to shed light on healing: guilt and shame, hurt, grief and loss, betrayal, blame, and forgiveness. Anger is as common an emotion as hurt, and depression connects to both. Defining these emotions is necessary to break the smaller shackles.


A small backstory about the writer.


In a nutshell, Yahuah delivered me from a life of sexual immorality, drugs, alcohol, and all things connected to that lifestyle. By the grace of Yah, a way opened for me to take a break from my employment to go through detox. This event led me to a program where I returned to spiritual wholeness. Most people are aware of Alcoholics Anonymous, a program that helps alcoholics become free of their addiction. I mention this small part of my history because my path to healing included working on a step everyone must take on their healing journey: admitting that something had gone wrong. Also, I was willing to do what it took to become free of my place of darkness, and admission was the beginning. Perhaps by now, you have connected this first step to the first step one must take to receive salvation. Victims of spiritual abuse are believers. Even if their faith is weak, Believers believe in Yahuah’s saving grace.


My grace is sufficient for you, for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Yahusha may rest upon me. 2 Corinthians 12:9


Healing Stages


This list is not exhaustive. These stages represent categories to help inform and offer guidelines for healing. Each has subcategories. During the webinar, each stage will be addressed in greater detail. 


Stage One. Acknowledge being a victim of abuse.

Stage Two. Become determined to heal through information.

Stage Three. Accept that you have been forgiven.

Stage Four. Become a positive role model for others.


Stage One. Acknowledge Being a Victim of Abuse

By the grace of Yahuah, I knew something had to change. Yahuah says His grace is sufficient. Grace is a gift of His favor. He gives us a favor: a gift, a free gift. This means He wants to help us become free of pain and hurt. He sees our tears. The righteous cry, and Yahuah hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Psalms 34:17. One day, a light was turned on within you, bringing to you the reality that you were in the wrong place. Some members of these groups earnestly desired Yah; they began reading The Word for themselves and started questioning doctrine, only to be met with harshness and intimidation. At this point, the victim has reached their first step.


Stage Two. Become Determined to Heal Through Information

As in manipulative spiritual abuse, the victim is met with hostile animosity when they question the doctrines of the organization. Spiritual abusers are authoritarian. They want to control your behavior. They do this by feeding the victim with mistranslated and interpreted Scripture. By this, they control the thoughts and emotions of those they wish to control. The leader requires excessive loyalty, even if they are wrong. If one fails to obey, one becomes an object of rejection. Stage Two can be pretty challenging. Losing the voice to express thoughts leaves the victim feeling powerless and worthless. As a Believer, they may even feel guilt for trying to break away. I likened it to a divorce from an unworthy partner or leaving employment you were faithful to. 


However, Scripture teaches us to study the Word of Yahuah. 2 Timothy 2:15 Be diligent in presenting yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed and accurately handle the word of truth. Often, members believe what they are taught. Some thought their leaders were anointed. Some believed their leader was Yah’s representative, who was there to replace Yahusha. In reality, they distort the truth, twisting it to their liking. As we study and pray, the Ruach haQodesh gives us the strength to separate ourselves because we cannot do it alone. At this stage, you will begin to rest in Heavenly Father. 


Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28


Cast thy burden upon Yahuah, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved. Psalms 55:22


You need not harbor shame for not knowing. I am reminded of the story of the two men walking to Emmaus, speaking wonderful things about Yahusha, unaware that the man walking with them was Yahusha. They did not know He was with them until he opened their eyes. The story is found in Luke 24:13:35. A main point about this story is that had they not been walking and talking about Him, He would not have opened their eyes. Another example that comes to mind is Ephesians, where Paul prays that the eyes of the people be opened. Ephesian 1:17-19. Believers know wonderful things about Yahusha, our Messiah, but sometimes are blind-sighted by wolves in sheep’s clothing. 


Remember John 10:10, where Yahusha tells us that He knows the devil wants to destroy us. However, in that same verse, He reminds us that He came to give life and to give that more abundantly. Victims of spiritual abuse already believe this; it is only a matter of grabbing hold of it and internalizing it until it becomes one with you.


Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what that good, acceptable, and perfect, will of Yahuah.


At this stage, you will have begun the transformative process from victim to one released from bondage. Yahusha said He came to set the captive free. By putting your faith and trust in Him, this will indeed happen. This is the fulfillment of Yahusha as prophesied in Isaiah 61:1 and Luke 4:18.


Stage Three. Accept That You Have Been Forgiven

Since coming into the knowledge of truth and having received forgiveness, accept Yahuah’s forgiveness in all humility so that you will be made whole. Yahuah does not criticize us for the error; therefore, refrain from self-criticism. In contrast, He would say your sins are forgiven; go and sin no more. Such a response is a form of redemption from the sin of not forgiving self, a burden we have been relieved of. Paul taught there is no longer condemnation for those who walk in Yahusha. Belief is necessary to reach the point of knowing it. 


Believing can also be problematic because we often know by Yah’s Word that forgiveness is granted, but how do we forgive ourselves? We all mess up at some point in our lives. Forgiveness comes from Yahuah and can be seen as another form of His grace. From reading the snippet of my backstory, I am humbled by His grace and forgiveness. Click here to read my Bio.


By humility and the fear of Yahuah are riches, and honour, and life. Proverbs 22:4


In humility, I receive the freedom to feel love and forgiveness from Yah, and in doing so, I began to love as He loves me. If I cannot humble myself before Him, it is like not receiving His grace and mercy; if I do not receive His grace and mercy, then I will always be unable to forgive myself. Do not block your blessed Divine gift of forgiveness.


Stage Four. Become A Positive Role Model For Others


John 14:12 Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father. John 14:12


If Yahusha said He came to free the captives and heal the brokenhearted, and if He said I can do likewise, then I believe it. Also, we are to comfort one another as we have been comforted. 


Blessed be Yahuah, even the Father of Yahshua haMashiach, the Father of mercies, and the Elohim of all comfort; who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of Yahuah. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4


Yahusha said He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. We should trust Him alone. And here is the beginning of continued growth.

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